Across many parts of the world, including Africa, Europe and North America, more women are choosing to stay single for longer or not marry at all. Data from global research bodies such as the United Nations and the World Bank show that women are marrying later than previous generations. In several developed countries, the average age of first marriage for women is now close to 30, compared to early 20s decades ago. Urban areas in Africa are also seeing a steady rise in later marriages.
One major reason is education. Today, more girls complete secondary school and move on to university than in the past. According to UNESCO data, female enrolment in higher education has increased significantly over the last two decades. With education often comes career ambition. Many women want to build stable careers, start businesses and achieve financial independence before considering marriage.
Financial independence is another key factor. Unlike previous generations where marriage was sometimes linked to economic survival, many women now earn their own income. In Nigeria and other emerging economies, women are active in banking, technology, entrepreneurship, media and public service. When a woman can pay her bills, own property and invest, the pressure to marry for security reduces.
There is also a shift in mindset. Social expectations have changed. Being single is no longer seen automatically as a failure. In urban cities like Lagos, Abuja, London or New York, single professional women are common and socially accepted. Many say they prefer peace of mind and emotional stability over rushing into the wrong relationship.
Relationship standards have also changed. Studies in psychology suggest that modern women are less willing to tolerate disrespect, emotional abuse or unequal partnerships. Rather than “manage” unhealthy situations, many choose to stay single until they find a partner who aligns with their values.
Economic realities play a role as well. Rising living costs, housing challenges and job uncertainty make marriage and starting a family more expensive. Some women say they would rather wait until they feel financially secure than struggle under pressure.
It is important to note that staying single does not mean rejecting love or family. For many women, it simply means making intentional choices. Some may marry later. Some may not. The key difference today is that it is increasingly a decision, not a compulsion.
Experts say this trend reflects broader social development. As education improves, economic opportunities expand and cultural norms evolve, women are exercising more control over their life paths. In simple terms, more women are choosing what works best for them, rather than following old expectations.
