Amarachi Amusi, also known as Ashmusy, is a social media influencer and content creator. She explained why she decided to freeze her eggs, saying it was a personal choice motivated by her wish to ensure her future as a mother.
She clarified that, regardless of the outcome of her relationships, she wanted to ensure that she would still have the opportunity to become a mother later in life because it is very important to her.
She said, “I really wanted to secure my future as a mother. Motherhood is very important to me, and I want to be sure that I will become a mum in the future, no matter what happens. I arrived at that clarity after going through a few serious relationships that I genuinely believed would end in marriage, but they didn’t.
“I also realised that many men these days are not emotionally available or emotionally mature enough to be husbands, no matter how promising they may initially seem. That made me understand that finding the right partner might take longer than I expected. Because of that, I decided to secure my future and play safe.
“I first learnt about egg freezing when Uriel (a former Big Brother Naija contestant) froze her eggs a few years ago. I saved the information somewhere because I thought it was such a smart decision. I told myself that no matter how complicated relationships become, at least she had secured a future chance at motherhood, and being a mother is one of the most important things to me.
“Also, I did a lot of research. I asked doctors several questions, consulted ChatGPT, used different search engines and read extensively online. I discovered that it is actually a safe process used to preserve a woman’s eggs. The eggs are extracted from the ovaries and stored in nitrogen until one is ready to conceive through IVF or artificial insemination. I studied all of that carefully before making my decision.
“Before making the decision, I experienced clarity and acceptance. Earlier in life, I was convinced I would get married before turning 30, but when I turned 30, and it still hadn’t happened, I had to confront reality.
“At first, there was panic, pressure and fear, but eventually I reached a point of acceptance. Once I accepted where I was in life, I found clarity and began to heal. That clarity helped me focus on the next step, which was securing my future as a mother, regardless of what was happening in my love life.
“During and after the process, I felt fulfilled, satisfied and genuinely happy. I felt relieved knowing that this important aspect of my future had been secured.
“It has given me peace of mind. I feel safe, secure and relaxed now. I can calmly take my time to find the right partner without feeling pressured by age or my biological clock. It has brought me peace, happiness and fulfilment.”
Ultimately, we all have our own unique goals and timelines for what we want to achieve before a certain age. Life, however, can be unpredictable, and sometimes we may not reach those milestones as planned. It’s important to remember that we should not let societal pressures push us into making decisions we’re not truly ready for.
Marriage, like many other life events, will come at its own time. Patience and self-awareness are key—there’s no need to rush into choices that may not be right for us. Trust in your journey, and know that the right time will come when you’re truly prepared.
