Is Malice The Right Approach In Marriage? The Power Of Communication Over Silent Treatment

My people, my people, I have come again. Today, I came across a video of Frank Edoho claiming to be the “king of malice” in his marriage. He mentioned that his wife knows him as the king of malice, implying that he often resorts to silent treatment or withholding emotions as a way of dealing with issues.

This raises an important question: Is malice the best way to resolve problems in a relationship? Where does communication fit into this picture? Personally, I believe that open and honest communication is the key to resolving issues in any relationship. Discussing problems openly helps to build understanding and trust.

When a partner keeps malice for days, weeks, or even months, it can have serious repercussions on the marriage. Will such a marriage become stronger or will it break apart? That’s something we need to consider carefully. If you’re unhappy about something, it’s right and healthy to sit down with your partner and discuss your feelings. Stop keeping malice and address issues directly.

The Bible teaches us that we should not let the sun go down on our anger—meaning, we should resolve conflicts before the day ends. Pastor Enoch of Redeemed Christian Church also emphasizes that we should not go to bed angry.
There’s a story of a couple where the wife, suffering from an asthma attack in the middle of the night, reached out to her husband for help. She was signaling for her inhaler, but the husband, angry and upset, refused to listen. Sadly, this led to her passing away. This story highlights how harmful holding onto malice can be, especially when it prevents us from helping or caring for our loved ones.

We all get angry sometimes, but controlling that anger is crucial. Malice should not be a tool or punishment in marriage. Instead, effective communication and understanding should be the foundation of a healthy relationship.

What are your thoughts? Do you believe malice is an appropriate way to handle conflicts, or do you think it’s better to communicate openly? Please share your views.

Thank you.